Convenient categories: Why Christians believe de-cons leave the faith
Often enough, Christians pop in to the de-conversion blog and proceed to enlighten us as to the “real reason” why we left the faith. Sometimes, we shoot down their reasons, thus inconveniencing them with the need to come up with others. So we de-cons have compiled a list from which one can simply select.
We hope this will save wear and tear (on the brain) and time (running to the pastor to hear what to think next) for intellectually indolent, but judgmentally industrious christians (using the lower-case ‘c’ for lower case minds).
So without further ado, we hereby present:
Convenient categories into which Christians can shoehorn or pigeonhole ex-Christians:
1. You’re looking for an excuse not to believe.
2. You’re being manipulated by Satan.
3. You’re indulging your desire to live hedonistically.
4. You want instant gratification.
5. You’re not thinking about the future/afterlife.
6. You never had a true personal relationship with Jesus.
7. You never experienced/received the Holy Spirit.
8. You were “religious” but not born again. (OR, in better church jargon) You had a “said faith, not a real faith.”
9. Your decision is based on other Christians’ behavior, not on Jesus’ teachings.
10. You were hurt by your pastor/other Christians.
11. You were in the “wrong” denomination or sect.
12. People disappointed you and so you “threw out the baby with the bathwater”.
13. You weren’t following the real (or historical) Jesus.
14. You’re angry and resentful and taking it out on God.
15. You’re mad at God for some misfortune in your life.
16. You were never saved/Christian to start with. (Good ole Calvinism)
17. You’re harboring sin in your heart.
18. You’re too prideful/arrogant to humble yourself before the Lord.
19. You have a rebellious spirit.
20. You didn’t pray/read the Bible enough.
21. You forsook assembling together.
22. You can’t accept authority.
23. You never dealt with sin in your life. (i.e. You were a carnal Christian.)
24. You are having a mid-life, or some other life wide, crisis.
25. You’re, “going through a phase.”
26. You are self-centered/serving yourself.
27. You are shutting your eyes to the obvious truth of God.
28. You love/serve science/job/hobbies more than God.
29. You were unequally yoked (e.g. wife is Catholic, you were Protestant).
30. You looked to your own will/emotions instead of God’s will.
31. You’re mind was poisoned by man’s philosophy.
32. You became “wise in your own eyes.”
33. You were trying too hard to see God, and your own efforts kept you from success. (OR, said a little differently) You never “let go and let God.” (OR, said a little differently) You depended too much on your own strength/intellect.
34. You quit seeking, or stopped “growing in the faith”, or allowed your faith to become stagnant.
35. You didn’t “take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
36. You were too legalistic.
37. You want to be your own god.
38. You didn’t really understand the scriptures (Bible).
[Last three added 4/25/08]
– LeoPardus (with contributions from karen, HeIsSailing, notabarbie, Quester and others)
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