Comments on: Leaving a Faith: What to Expect

By: Scott

Scott — Sun, 24 Mar 2013 12:50:24 +0000

Spencer,
I understand your feelings. It takes a while to find your footing in your new life. It’s been almost 4 years for me and I still find myself getting irritated with my former leaders when I think about the things I did and believed. Please note that I am now just irritated, not angry, so that’s progress. The indifference towards death was a relief for me. I no longer worry that everything I do/think/say is going to be judged. I can just be “me”.

By: Spencer

Spencer — Sun, 24 Mar 2013 09:29:20 +0000

Im stuck between the first phase and fourth. Im angry but also very depressed feeling no meaning for life and now have an indifference to death.

By: BigHouse

BigHouse — Fri, 21 May 2010 16:48:26 +0000

It must be frustrating when your blog gets zero discussion unless it’s a deconvert dismantling your flimsy srguments. I’m not sure why else you continue to link to us heathens.

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By: Deb

Deb — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 04:38:20 +0000

(I admit I didn’t read all the comments yet.)

I feel a sense of relief. I now believe that my beloved grandmother who died many years ago is NOT going to burn in hell forever and ever because she wasn’t “saved.”

But I also feel a sense of sadness, because I no longer believe that I will be able to see my deceased father (or others) again someday.

By: TheLaughingMan

TheLaughingMan — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 13:21:55 +0000

I did feel loss. But mostly because I can’t blame god anymore. It still feels strange, but also strangely liberating.

By: amy

amy — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 14:24:42 +0000

I would have placed “Learning” first as it was always my curiosity and tendency to question and explore other religious/nonreligious views that is probably what ended what little vestiges of faith I had in the first place, thus bumping “Loss” to number 2.

I would place at number 3 “Relapse: in which the grief of loss in number 2 drives the person back to religion in hopes of getting back the sense of purpose, meaning, and mystery they lost.” I skipped 5 with people I knew personally and kept that on the internet plane–blogs, discussion forums, etc. I hope to avoid 7 entirely–having a “near hatred” of religion sounds very consuming and I’d rather save my energy for more enjoyable pursuits.

By: Scott

Scott — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 23:05:04 +0000

Line? What line?

I was looking for a half-full glass when you guys start talking about a line!

Now I gotta start all over

By: LeoPardus

LeoPardus — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 18:43:59 +0000

Right. Dragging someone to your line, or demanding that your line MUST be THE LINE for all is folly. Of course discussing why we place our lines where we do, and trying to convince others to move closer to our line, or convincing ourselves to move our own lines, is a great thing.

By: Brent

Brent — Sun, 06 Dec 2009 18:04:26 +0000

I should clarify. I meant dragging by force.